tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post1289007413082242361..comments2023-05-30T08:29:42.770-04:00Comments on The Erotica Readers & Writers Association Blog: The Long History Behind The Stanford Rape Case: Why Society Still Says Women Who’ve Been Raped Deserve ItCroco Designshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04417265522875605547noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-30268658069613857232016-07-04T19:02:45.432-04:002016-07-04T19:02:45.432-04:00It is a complex matter, further complicated by the...It is a complex matter, further complicated by the fact that we are discouraged from talking about sexuality honestly. I'd like to see male "scoring" redefined--sticking your cock inside someone doesn't count unless the person has an actual orgasm. If they don't, you lose points on the "stud" scale.Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13615190390845433428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-8170259924115561272016-06-28T16:29:20.328-04:002016-06-28T16:29:20.328-04:00I still remember dating young men who thought wish...I still remember dating young men who thought wishful thinking was an effective form of birth control -- or who (at least in one case) thought I should be open to the possibility of getting pregnant and raising a child alone, because it's only natural for women to reproduce. (No mention of the father's responsibility.) A common goal would be a good thing, but I don't know if it's possible. Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-70824182628988395832016-06-26T12:34:03.296-04:002016-06-26T12:34:03.296-04:00Part of the magic of the early 1970s was that we g...Part of the magic of the early 1970s was that we genuinely believed the enlightened path to equality was wide and smooth. There has been some positive change compared to 1910 or 1950, but it is very frustrating how the same old arguments return, even if the color of their cardigans is different.<br /><br />Speaking of birth control, my pet peeve is how men have totally dropped the ball on that one and left to issue to women. As if they would not be impacted if birth control was as limited as many conservatives would want it to be. I wish that we didn't feel this is a war <i>between</i> the sexes, but rather that we could work toward a common goal. More '70s idealism?Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13615190390845433428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-72513034275105129362016-06-22T23:08:39.588-04:002016-06-22T23:08:39.588-04:00I had such high hopes, way back when, that by the ...I had such high hopes, way back when, that by the time I had kids (even though I never wanted any,) that sex would be more openly discussed, that women would be equals, and that birth control would be readily accessible, rendering abortion unnecessary, but still available to those who needed that option. Of course I also thought weed would be legal, once people of "my generation" were running things. Sigh...what a dreamer I was!<br /><br />All of my kids are in their twenties and we're still having the same bullshit arguments. Seems like even glaciers move faster than change in society. Just when you think something good is being accomplished, those who are frightened by any change react and the pendulum swings way back, further than it was to begin with. How frustrating.Fiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-73462003292705609302016-06-18T14:33:06.042-04:002016-06-18T14:33:06.042-04:00You are right on target, Lisabet. It was virtually...You are right on target, Lisabet. It was virtually impossible to fulfill the highly contradictory role of the "perfect woman" and still is today when we're supposed to be sexually eager and responsive to the man who is judging us at the moment, but no one else or we're sluts. No one really wins this game.Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13615190390845433428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-43052735029491679362016-06-18T05:45:43.707-04:002016-06-18T05:45:43.707-04:00"If followed to the letter, any woman concern..."If followed to the letter, any woman concerned for her safety must wear a gray sack and no make-up, never drink alcohol, never have sexual experience or desires outside of marriage, never go out in public without proper protection and never be alone behind closed doors with a man."<br /><br />And then such a woman would be disparaged as a "dog", a "prude", "stuck up", or "frigid".<br /><br />Sigh.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.com