tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post2618164256310344132..comments2023-05-30T08:29:42.770-04:00Comments on The Erotica Readers & Writers Association Blog: In Defense of Bad SexCroco Designshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04417265522875605547noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-20616850544795866242014-05-13T05:30:49.738-04:002014-05-13T05:30:49.738-04:00And: in a story about an intimate relationship, t...And: in a story about an intimate relationship, the sexual encounters are part of that story. Of course there would be all kinds of different experiences along the way. And there is so much between 'fantastic' and 'it just doesn't work'. In fact I would argue that the majority of sexual experiences are somewhere in between. Sex, in my opinion, is just like everything else. thanks so much for this article and starting the discussion. I want to support you in this!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15129444844706185584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-40573038240506674612014-05-13T05:28:56.248-04:002014-05-13T05:28:56.248-04:00I agree! Not only is 'good sex' somehow s...I agree! Not only is 'good sex' somehow seen as not quite worthy of literature/mainstream fiction (although it may well be part of all sorts of stories), there is something puritanical about it. Seen as different from everything else in a story or a life. And over and above all this, mainstream/literature has all sorts of sex scenes, in great detail and at length, that are completely forbidden in 'erotica'. Which shows you how erotica is seen as a genre. In mainstream, 'anything goes' as long as it is a bad experience. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-85932103264927191922014-05-12T10:44:38.898-04:002014-05-12T10:44:38.898-04:00Thank you so much for inviting me! I am honored to...Thank you so much for inviting me! I am honored to be asked :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-22746976318564955162014-05-12T08:35:13.518-04:002014-05-12T08:35:13.518-04:00If I want to read about bad sex, I read mainstream...If I want to read about bad sex, I read mainstream, or literary fiction, or well, any genre except erotica. Any level of explicitness seems to be acceptable, as long as the sex is unpleasant and the characters get punished for doing it. I feel like erotica is the only genre in which the author is 'allowed' to write sex that the characters enjoy. To me, the challenge is to write a good story AND good sex. Am I nuts?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11889482544463723850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-25350246655970854542014-05-12T01:24:15.628-04:002014-05-12T01:24:15.628-04:00I actually find "bad sex" to be a lot of...I actually find "bad sex" to be a lot of fun to write. I've written several explicit scenes for plot or character purposes that I didn't want arousing. How else to capture the ambivalence that often accompanies sex? Big Ed Magussonhttp://www.besplace.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-11410990267103231162014-05-11T13:17:15.013-04:002014-05-11T13:17:15.013-04:00Yes, I think it's hard because--probably more-...Yes, I think it's hard because--probably more-so than other genres--erotica is born of fantasy and our fantasies are often overly perfected, but *stories* are facets of life and life is never so. There is nothing wrong with erotic fantasies, but I am intrigued with the opportunities of storytelling as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-48490062105397873522014-05-11T13:13:17.600-04:002014-05-11T13:13:17.600-04:00Indeed! It's definitely a challenge, I've ...Indeed! It's definitely a challenge, I've been trying to wrap my mind around it since I thought of it, but I think it has rich promise overall. ;) And yay, we miss you and eagerly await your glorious return!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-61692652977347951702014-05-11T07:10:34.410-04:002014-05-11T07:10:34.410-04:00Interesting points, Corvidae. It's all too eas...Interesting points, Corvidae. It's all too easy to get carried away thinking of mind-blowing sex scenes when sometimes the exact opposite makes the story better,Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02456504365133294945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-55425245627645322212014-05-11T05:25:44.177-04:002014-05-11T05:25:44.177-04:00Corvidae, this is an excellent post & also ins...Corvidae, this is an excellent post & also inspiring. i like to depict imperfect sex when warranted. it's part of using every aspect of the story to reveal something about the characters & provides opportunities for tension & conflict. ps- i know i've been away from ERWA for some time now, immersed in various duties relating to poetry & publishing, but i shall return :)Amanda Earlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09059621442042833693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-35902845873776680532014-05-11T04:49:44.622-04:002014-05-11T04:49:44.622-04:00This is a great post, Corvidae, and a point well w...This is a great post, Corvidae, and a point well worth making. How can we write characters who feel real if their sex lives are perfect?<br /><br />Thanks for being our guest!Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.com