tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post3502384481364161229..comments2023-05-30T08:29:42.770-04:00Comments on The Erotica Readers & Writers Association Blog: Is Fifty Shades of Grey the Only Porn Women Get?Croco Designshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04417265522875605547noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-29880374533818270552016-02-08T13:11:35.436-05:002016-02-08T13:11:35.436-05:00Brilliant--romances as a "starter kit" b...Brilliant--romances as a "starter kit" because they do make women the center of it all as nothing else does. I also agree that fantasy and escaping from the everyday world, which denies or degrades female sexuality, is critical to reaching orgasm for most/many/me women. Of course, even the starter kit is denigrated, but how many of us really follow the rules anyway?Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13615190390845433428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-86488037573396411852016-02-08T13:08:37.866-05:002016-02-08T13:08:37.866-05:00Glad you enjoyed it! There is definitely a lot of ...Glad you enjoyed it! There is definitely a lot of room for development in this area :).Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13615190390845433428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-51139319597808720212016-01-25T21:21:07.727-05:002016-01-25T21:21:07.727-05:00Donna, this is such a great article that I don'...Donna, this is such a great article that I don't know where to start commenting! It seems true that no one ever asks women what they want, but a better argument is that didn't seem to occur to (some) men (the ones creating porn for women) to ask women, but women have been creating escapist fantasy for women for years. I would also argue that so many women rely heavily on imagination and fantasy to reach orgasm that we're already pretty adept at taking the "starter kit" (romance novels) and running with it. They didn't need to fill in the gaps for us.Kathleen Bradeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06347913255760493335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-51909922674635041672016-01-23T08:33:18.755-05:002016-01-23T08:33:18.755-05:00What a great review and great article! Thank you f...What a great review and great article! Thank you for providing me perhaps a glimpse beyond those stale ideas thrown at us from our male-centric culture. Yes, I suppose those few that understand the differences and similarities between what women and men find arousing are the ones finding true success.Ellison Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17245256068883384084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-81684926623840527602016-01-19T13:21:49.695-05:002016-01-19T13:21:49.695-05:00Fiona, the world would be a happier place with mor...Fiona, the world would be a happier place with more people like you--and your husband is a fortunate man! The ladies saying "eeuw" while eagerly turning the pages is a familiar scene for me, too. The slamming is a total turn-off and a bad example for the real world for sure. And yes, when two people are hot for each other, it's the best. I'm finding that gratifying in my current attempt to write an erotic romance, which is about courtship to a greater degree than "plain" erotica and certain porn.Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13615190390845433428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-37633731920199303132016-01-19T13:18:51.649-05:002016-01-19T13:18:51.649-05:00The "story" is very important to me! Tha...The "story" is very important to me! Thanks for that link, it's worth reading. Of many relevant supporting quotes:<br /><br />"Women who viewed clips from erotic films made by women or men reported higher levels of sexual arousal to the woman-made films (Laan et al., 1994). However, their subjective response was not reflected in their physiological response as they showed similar genital response to both woman- and man-made films. This discordance may reflect that these women also reported more negative emotions, such as aversion, guilt, and shame, in response to the man-created compared to the woman-created films. These negative emotions may result from the fact that man-created films involved no foreplay and focused almost exclusively on intercourse while the woman-created film had four of 11-minutes devoted to foreplay."<br /><br />Of course, there are those studies that say both men and women respond genitally to sexualized situations even if they aren't mentally aroused, and in the case of women it prevents some bodily injury in incidents of rape, but anyway, glad to see there is some serious attention to this issue!Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13615190390845433428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-10503827893321024682016-01-18T11:35:40.736-05:002016-01-18T11:35:40.736-05:00I was in high school when Playgirl debuted. I use...I was in high school when Playgirl debuted. I used to buy it and bring it to my mom's store where she sold clothing. I would show it to her, and all of the middle-aged women there would gather around and ooh and aah over the pictures. Of course they'd be saying things like, "That's disgusting!", but they would eagerly turn the pages to look at the next image. <br /><br />I, too, was turned off by the flaccid state of the guys' dicks. I like when they're big and hard and ready for action. But I'm grossed out by porn that seems to present huge penises that would actually be painful for most women, as the norm. And the non-stop slamming that goes on in most porn is disturbing rather than erotic...I keep wondering how many bruises that poor woman will have tomorrow.<br /><br />Lisabet is right about stories, because the porn husband and I have enjoyed together has an actual story line, even when it's thin. And you enjoy the sex because you sense that these two people (or more) really want to fuck. Now that's entertainment!<br /><br />BTW, I got my husband to drop his Playboy subscription when we were dating by giving him a Polaroid Instamatic camera and promising to pose in lingerie anytime he wanted me to. And in return, I dropped my NOW membership, but not my feminism. Win-win for both of us!Fiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7396437919069310850.post-10595309568561236712016-01-18T05:38:38.613-05:002016-01-18T05:38:38.613-05:00I do love your reviews, Donna!
Research has shown...I do love your reviews, Donna!<br /><br />Research has shown that women do indeed react to, and report being aroused by, nude images of men--and of women, even when they identify themselves as straight. Another finding is that for women, context plays a more important role in the level of arousal. I interpret this as saying that women are more sensitive to the "story" behind the images.<br /><br />There's a good review of the current literature here:<br /><a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2739403/" rel="nofollow">http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2739403/</a><br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.com